Stop until they heal, and next time use more lube, and relax more as you play with the positions. That way you get an element of erotic play and relax a bit even before you start. Is the feeling different from sex with women.. I am not in love with him, and have no desire to be in a "relationship" with him. Moreover, why should it matter to anyone else? It was a goal I'd never thought I'd reach with a submissive, but one that had secretly excited me tremendously long before I'd learned what exactly I was. Sometimes it's been a compliment, but not something of interest, especially when they're already involved.