Having the desire to pleasure you partner the same w …. Amazing, intense and pleasurable. The more I love and trust someone, the more likely I am to have an orgasm while with him—and the more likely I am to be okay with pushing society's "norms" with him. If you haven't had an orgasm, you're less likely to be relaxed, so you can't do anal sex. Women who offer anal sex are typically those most comfortable with themselves, their bodies or with asking for what they want from their partner, and when a woman is comfortable with those things she's more likely to reach orgasm.