Yes , the movies count. He clearly does all he can to mold Carrie into some archetype of the barefoot, braless prairie woman he really wants. I've slept with both of them in the past 36 hours. Besides, Aidan's no martyr! But we should be able to have our cake and also fuck our cake. Just because you think Big is an asshole to Carrie doesn't mean you have to delude yourself into thinking Aidan's her — or your — dream man, when there are plenty of men out there who are capable of both hand-holding and fucking. I only discovered this was an unpopular opinion from the hailstorm of angry comments I got when I ranked Carrie's boyfriends , and figured I should elaborate on why he sucks for Carrie.